Alice’s misadventures in Blunder-land…

What do you think of your county courthouse? Is it somewhere you go to pay a ticket once every few years or renew your car tag? I bet your glad that most of these types of obligations can now be taken care of online!

But have you ever considered what is going on in the courtrooms past the metal detectors? Have you ever given a thought to the human beings in those rooms as you walked out, receipt in hand?

You should. As an American citizen you need to know what is going on behind those doors.

You need to know what crimes are being perpetrated in the name of Justice. And you need to know what it is costing you, because even if you think this has nothing to do with you, what is going on behind those doors is costing our society dearly.

In Round 1 of “Because you did not know” we looked at how a child support evader managed to keep his drivers license from being suspended for non payment by making a payment of 0.05 cents on a balance of over $17K. YOU, the American taxpayers, are paying for this in the form of state assistance to the children and costs associated with these cases.

Now, in Round 2, let’s follow my friend “Alice”. Her marriage went down the proverbial rabbit hole, now Alice finds herself behind those metal detectors a good bit of the time, in the room marked “Family Court”.

Alice certainly never expected to land here. When she met the “Mad Hatter” she was a strong willed, determined, confident young woman, the daughter of a minister and a physician.

Alice is also a college graduate with multiple degree’s including a doctorate.

Alice sits outside the courtroom and states, “I never thought this would be my life? I was a stay at home mother. I homeschooled our kids! He said I was a good mother. However, within two weeks of our separation he accused me of parental alienation, called CPS and here I am.”  It is possible that the amount of child support owed for the children was one of the factors in this accusation.

Alice and Mad were married for 18 years, and now actively in the court system for the past 18 months.

There are eight children involved in this nightmare. Over the years, Alice and Mad had 5 biological children and adopted more. Three are now 18 or older and out of the clutches of the courts nightmare, but continue to deal with depression, anxiety and PTSD.

Five children remain embroiled in the divorce, custody and support issues that the court has jurisdiction over.

“Curiouser and Curiouser…”   (quote from Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland, by Lewis Carroll. Other quotes will also be in italics throughout this text)

The kids have reported and documented for CPS that Mad yells, hits them, does not provide meals, leaves sex toys all over the house, porn on computers and leaves them unsupervised… At a custody exchange at the police station the 18 year old was dropping off the 11 year old and Mad flew into a rage because she did not want to go with him, pulling her out of the car by her NECK, choking her… He was just out of range of the camera’s in the parking lot. Neither child has changed how this went down in their statements one time since this incident, but because Mad SAID he did not do it, and the camera’s didn’t catch the incident CPS agreed he did not do it.

“I’m not crazy! My reality is just a little different from yours!”


The 11 year old child was allowed to go home with Alice that night after being evaluated in the ER. She was forced back into her father’s custody a week later at court. She was hysterical and dragged away from her mother and her older sister in the court room…

At Mad’s house, the 16 year old is left in charge even though CPS has documented this and “refuses to allow the 16 year old to supervise the younger” after an incident where the 11 year old called 911 in a medical emergency involving the 9 year old because the 16 year old would not call for fear of Mad becoming angry.

This order means nothing to Mad. The first weekend of this month he left them alone again, unsupervised, from Saturday to Sunday night. When Mad takes his “me time” he does not answer his phone. That is why the kids were forced to call 911 in a medical emergency.

Alice sadly recalls that it was three years into this marriage when he first threatened her. Alice was standing on the steps to the basement laundry area. Mad was angry she was not doing his laundry exactly as instructed. Alice had the two year old hiding between her legs and a six month old infant in her arms unable to move as Mad stood at the top of the stairs blocking her way and screaming, “If you ever leave me I will take the kids and convince everyone YOU are a terrible mother! You will NEVER see them again!”

Alice’s life turned into one of coercive control by threats, forced fertility with the adoptions and even Mad threatening suicide if he did not get his way.

When Alice discovered his infidelity and secret sex life of multiple mistress’s and sadist sex games in “clubs” that Mad was a member of, enough was enough…

“Would you tell me please, which way I ought to go from here? That depends a good deal on where you want to get to.” said the cat.    (quoted from Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland, Lewis Carroll) 


Again, two weeks after Alice and Mad separated, he called CPS. He informed the caseworker that Alice was an abuser and a narcissist, guilty of parental alienation.

With CPS involved and motions filed in court a Gardian Ad Litem was appointed over the minor children and Mad was given custody over the children over a period of months with the GAL’s assistance in court due to Alice’s “abuse” by parental alienation.


“But I don’t want to go among mad people.” Alice remarked. “Oh you can’t help that,” said the cat, “We’re all mad here. I’m mad, your mad.  How do you know I’m mad?” said Alice. “You must be,” said the Cat, “or you wouldn’t have come here.” 


The GAL on this case is an attorney. The therapists she has appointed to evaluate the children and their statements of abuse are all personal friends of hers, with relationships that predate this case.

The judge assigned to this case will not hear it. He wants the “professionals to force a solution for him to rule on.”

The GAL was questioned by Alice’s attorney regarding the sexual behavior of Mad.  “Aren’t you worried about his sexual behavior and affiliation with sex clubs?” The GAL replied, “Well yes, but the therapists have not raised it as an issue.”

The therapist admitted under oath that she deleted ALL COMMUNICATION with Mad. She refused to give a reason why she committed such an act during the pendency of this case, just that she did it.

In this past year the GAL reported to the court that the therapist stated Alice should only have supervised visits with the children. Then she admitted in chambers that she had NEVER spoken to the therapist and refused to state where she came up with this recommendation! This GAL is not only still on the case, but she has accepted over $7000.00 in payments from Mad only.

Where does all this leave Alice?

Alice is living a mother’s worst nightmare. She is prevented from protecting her children by orders of the courts that are supposed to rule “in the best interests of the child.”  She is fraught with anxiety for her kid’s safety and the damage being done to young minds. She wonders if there is enough therapy on earth to undo this damage. She is broke, trying to work a full time job not just to keep herself afloat but pay enormous legal fee’s. She lives in a state of disbelief that CPS and the GAL, with overwhelming evidence refuse to protect her children.

Mad even informed the GAL he was “going out of town”. The truth is he went to Mexico leaving the children at home alone for a WEEK.  The sixteen year old was left in charge of the three younger siblings with NO ADULT AWARE he was out of the county until he got back. No sanctions for Mad… Just an order that the sixteen year old cannot be “supervising” that Mad continues to disregard.

Alice has been stalked online and found herself handcuffed and taken into court custody when Mad recruited friends to harvest her online communications in a closed/secret online group that provided support for protective mothers. He filed a motion accusing her of violating gag orders related to the case. The judge did graciously suspend her 15 day jail sentence for this horrible offence of seeking help in a private support group…

Gag orders are one of the abuses of power that are common in family court today. The reality is this is a violation of constitutional rights to free speech for the parents who are prevented from exposing the legal abuses experienced. I want to note here that parents fighting for their rights have had “gag” orders successfully overturned by the appellate courts. We cannot be silent about this abuse of power any longer.


“Who are YOU?” said the Caterpillar. This was not an encouraging opening for a conversation. Alice replied rather shyly, “I-I hardly know sir, just at present- I, least I know who I WAS when I got up this morning, but I think I must have been changed several times since then.” 


Alice has been changed, her children have been changed. Now Mad is in the process of changing all the doctors and counselors the kids have seen over the past five years. He wants new doctors. Why would such a thing be allowed, especially for the special medical needs children, when the mother, who as a highly educated nurse has managed all the medical needs, medications, appointments and had all the kids medically stable prior to the separation?

The judge refusing to hear this case and allowing family court officials to disregard evidence, destroy evidence and suggest and implement a dangerous custody arrangement while restricting a former stay at home, homeschooling mom from seeing her children is wrong! This is a complete miscarriage of justice you better hope you never find yourself facing.

THIS is what is happening behind those doors at the courthouse It is not “Fake News”. It’s not even an isolated case. This is what the family courts in America have become, a CASH COW for unscrupulous people who profit on the suffering of our children.

Alice laughed, “there’s no use trying,” she said: “one can’t believe impossible things.  I daresay you haven’t much practice.” said the Queen, “When I was your age, I always did for half an hour a day. Why sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast!”

Like Alice, we MUST keep trying. We MUST tell these stories. We MUST expose crooked court “professionals” and we MUST fix our court system so it lives up to it’s mission– to protect our children and serve their BEST INTERESTS.







Alana is a nurse with 26 years of experience in caregiving. She is also a copywriter, copyeditor and creative writer who believes our words should always inspire, encourage and delight. Visit her online at

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